I have been hearing the saying “love is blind” since I don’t know when, and people are still repeating the nonsense. I am sure I am not the only one to have been hearing it; you too have. Is it really love that is blind, or is it that at times our naïveté leads us into making the foolish, dumb and stupid decisions?
All of us are blessed with the capacity to think and reason, differentiating us from these four-legged animals. Love is indeed powerful, but its power can never get to overpower that of our sense of reason which all of us possess. I am not buying that.
Relationship is not made for kids to get into. It is a grown people thing. It is not a game; it is a serious matter. It can mess you up to the point where your entire psychological self may need to literally be reconstructed. Choosing someone to be and stay with cannot be a gamble or a game of chess. It has got to be the result of some serious thinking.
Being with someone is just as serious as driving a motor vehicle. The only difference is that, unlike to operate a motor vehicle, you are not required to be licensed to be in a relationship with someone. But, in analogy, driving a vehicle and being in a relationship are basically the same. If love can get you blind, you should not be in relationships, for you will become a danger or a matter of disturbance to yourself and others.
If you realize that you are losing your 20/20 vision, my advice to you is to let someone else drive you around. In other words, if you feel like that love is getting you to lose your sense of logic and start acting foolish, dumb and stupid, maybe you need to do something about yourself. Take a relationship vacation or something until you recover your vision. I have been in the game for some time now, never have I lost my 20/20 vision. So quit saying love is blind. 😀
Ekspoze! -The final word 
“Someone told me I should take caution when it comes to love… I DID”
Losing oneself to the point of losing visions, is like driving under the influence of alcohol. I don’t drink and drive and definitely will not be in a toxic relationship, not good for both parties.
I feel you, Krakra! Being intoxicated in a relationship is a pain in the butt. Even after the effects rescinded, you still have to deal with the aftermath -the hangover.
That term should not be taken literally, sometimes i feel like my heart and my mind are not connecting.. they are too stubborn individuals. there comes my volition into the question of love, and since I am not willing to lose my 20/20 I refuse to be taken for a fool. we all have those impulse when you feel like acting crazy, but there should be a stronger impulse of self-preservation. Again Love yourself and make the right decisions.. I agree with this article.. very well written my dear..
Thanks for the kind words, Za. lol You are not willing to lose your 20/20 vision, so you refuse to be taken for a fool, huh?
Well, being hurt is part of the game. If you have never gotten hurt, you will not know what it feels like to get hurt and what to do to prevent yourself from getting hurt.
You make some great points, though. What does not kill you makes you stronger. So don’t be afraid to face the challenges.
This post is right on. While impulsive acts and spontaneous acts can contribute to a relationship, they should not be the basis for one. Adults should enter a relationship with thought and consideration, like you said. If you feel that you can make each other happy and still stay true to you go for it, but LOVE IS NOT BLIND, infatuation is 😉
You are right on target, SM. Indeed, impulsive and spontaneous acts must not be the foundation of any relationship. Let me ask you this, though… how could they “contribute to a relationship?”
Infatuation is blind, not love. I love that line. lol If love has to be blind, it is not love. lol
Very simple: spontaneous acts bring an element of surprise to the relationship and sometimes within a relationship if you act on impulse, take chances with each other and the ways you bond and show appreciation it not only makes you stronger, but also makes it more enjoyable.
“Relationship is not made for kids to get into. It is a grown people thing. It is not a game; it is a serious matter. It can mess you up to the point where your entire psychological self may need to literally be reconstructed. Choosing someone to be and stay with cannot be a gamble or a game of chess. It has got to be the result of some serious thinking.”
Mature people live in reality; they know the difference between what is right and what is wrong, what is real and unreal, and what it takes to find “the right one” for you: Maturity takes time. Immature people can be relatively older or comparatively younger, so age is not the only factor in maturity when it comes to finding “the right one.” Age, however, is still an important factor.
It takes wisdom to be able to acknowledge an attraction to another person while at the same time keeping that attraction in check. (That is another article for another time.) While there is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone, we must be sure to handle that attraction responsibly, without giving in to its foolish desires or recklessness.