Why do people think that premarital sex, which they call fornication, is a sin? This to me is foolishness. Sex is a need just like the need to be fed when hunger strikes. Do you commit a sin for satiating your thirst and hunger, when you are thirsty and hungry? I don’t think so.
The people making this foolish argument want you to marry the person before you could engage in sexual activities with them. Are they really serious? Wait a minute!!! Which marriage are they talking about –the natural marriage of the hearts, which no one can see when taken place (not even the two involved individuals) or the government’s issuance of this piece of paper with the header that reads “marriage certificate?” I am anxious to find out which marriage they are talking about.
We were born with our own sex engine, which, when cranked, has to produce mechanical work. The mechanism put in place to make possible the cranking of that engine is beyond our control. A one-year-old boy’s engine, for instance, could be cranked, and he would not have any knowledge as to what has caused that to happen.
In my view, there is no sin in premarital sex; it is all a scam. We use the sin concept to scare people out in order to establish some degree of order in society. Go ahead enjoy your sex life as much as you can. Just be smart and careful in so doing just like you would if you were to operate a motor vehicle. If the Almighty did not want you to produce mechanical work with that great piece of engine, he would have not blessed you with it in the first place. He did not give it to you as ornament to beautify your body; He gave it to you so you could put mileage on it. lol 😀
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Im all about pre-marital sex and i believe that my future wife would feel disrespected if i wasn’t giving her the business every night. having pre marital sex helps 2 individual connect on a whole different level. its a necessity if you plan on having a “faithful” marriage.
“[I] believe that my future wife would feel disrespected if i wasn’t giving her the business every night.”
lol lol You are funny. If you don’t do your job, I guarantee you someone else will be hired to do it on your behalf. So it is your choice to decide.
“having pre marital sex helps 2 individual connect on a whole different level. its a necessity if you plan on having a “faithful” marriage.”
You could have not said it any better. Some people choose to abstain from sexing their partners, yet they wonder why they girlfriends/boyfriends cheat on them. Don’t they know if they fail to water a plant, it will eventually dry out dead? lol Also, don’t they know if they fail to feed their dogs, they will be at every neighbor’s house sniffing? Then they will wonder why these dogs can never keep their tails inside the house. lol lol SMH
So sad I expected more for u, I really thought u wld entertain restraining for ur future wife, but I guess u r a typical guy that loves to entertain the devil as apose to God! Tiiiiiiiiiiiiiichup, mess up my hope, geee thanks Mr. Prod g!
I agree with you for the most part, sex is important period. Where I disagree is how you make as if it’s “just” something that needs to get satified. I think that this becomes a matter of sexes, men are able to see it as just an action that they can and must be good at, women on the other hand take it to a much more emotional level. I have only met 1 man that wanted to save himself for marriage, for the most part it’s women that feel that way, for that sole reason of not being cherished. Some may think that “miles” on a woman isn’t that attractive.(I did see your comment on “taking the relationship to the next level)
“Where I disagree is how you make as if it’s “just” something that needs to get satified.”
It is to be satisfied. It is a need, isn’t it? Now, the issue lies in the route you are going to take to get that need satisfied. I am not going to tell you to open your legs to whomever passing by, but if the person is your committed partner, why not?
“I think that this becomes a matter of sexes, men are able to see it as just an action that they can and must be good at, women on the other hand take it to a much more emotional level.”
You may be right. I think society has a lot to do with it. A man who is spending his time chasing women is highly valued in this male-dominated society. Let a woman do the same thing, she will be called all types of names. That’s the double standard that has become quite a societal norm.
“Some may think that “miles” on a woman isn’t that attractive.”
Why should a woman disclose to me how many men she has been in her life? That’s why I’ve never asked that question. I don’t need to know such a thing. What am I trying to get with that question? I am concerned with other things, not that one.
Thank you Rachelle! The men AND women that see sex as exercise are deeply damaged, and have holes in their life that can destroy them. I know in my heart that the source of Love, our Creator, would prefer we not do it to avoid the pain. BUT there are so many other things we human beings need to learn about ourselves other than how to be celibate. NOONE can deny it strengthens you spiritually, just like fasting Emann! And the BEST sex is in total trust, love and commitment, to keep it new exciting just like God’s love. So there!
“The men AND women that see sex as exercise are deeply damaged, and have holes in their life that can destroy them.”
Come on, OJ!! How so? Sex is not just a matter of creation to me. I use it for both -creation and recreation. I use it for entertainment and procreation purposes.
I have no holes in my life. I love sex, and nothing is wrong with that. If sex did not exist, I would have taken it upon myself to create it. That’s the best thing God could have ever created. lol
“BUT there are so many other things we human beings need to learn about ourselves other than how to be celibate.”
I don’t get this statement, OJ. Please come again.
I am saying that we “sin” in infinite ways. Working to become the best we can be is a personal journey and for some people that means sexual limits, others no.
“I know in my heart that the source of Love, our Creator, would prefer we not do it to avoid the pain.”
What pains are you referring to? There is a possibility of facing hardships (physically and psychologically) in everything we do in life.
I think the religious folks are overcomplicating the situation. You are in a committed relationship with someone, enjoying the pleasure of sex with that person is the right thing to do.
I am referring to the pain that most men deny, emotional vulnerability to give your SELF to someone when you sleep with them.
“NOONE can deny it strengthens you spiritually, just like fasting Emann!”
You’re saying that celibacy strengthens people? lol
Let me ask you a question… have you ever had sex?
Celibacy is very strengthening, if for no other reason that you learn to resist temptation. We are surrounded by temptations of every kind, like seemingly tasty food and drinks that kill us slowly.
So, what about Adultry & The Sin/Murder/Ownership Factor? Why should someone have the right to murder another over a sexual act? Do we own out partner and have the right to murder his or her lover as if they had stolen our property? Is murdering your partner’s lover more of a “sin” tha the affair? The “sin”part of sex outside a relationship has to do with the lies, cheating and secrets more than the sexual act itself. “Open relationships” and “swinger relationships” that are carried on with full knowledge and concent of each partner are a healthier way to meet the desire for outside activity. Statistics show that it is almost imposible to be in an exclusive relationship for a lifetime. Why not agree with your partner right up front that either perscn may find others attractive and may want an outside sexual experience but the marrige/partnership does not have to end because of it.
I pretty much understand the point you are making, Terry. Great point!
Usually I don’t take part of arguing about religion bc the bible says it in blunt words to not argue on its behalf, instead don’t yolk yourself with an unbeliever(2corthian 6v14-18). So im just gonna keep it simple for anyone that believes that sex b4 marriage isn’t a sin! Ok if you are an adult you have a choice to do whatever you want, no one is holding a key to your life but God. So you can choose to do the rite thing by following the instructions in the bible or u can do what man wants you to do and give praise to the devil. Just remember when ur days are near and you are close to death who will you call unto God or Satan? How will you look in front of God when you are stuck in front of heaven’s door after continously sinning and not caring what his words says. Its one thing not to know what the word says and sin but if you know the word and still choose to sin, then you choose to burn in hell forever. I use to think it wasnt that serious to have sex b4 marriage until I read in 1corthian 6v 12-19, it cleared up everything for me, so I choose heaven, so Im gonna follow the word as best as possible, you do u!
Its cute to try to go against God’s convenant but I truly think you should rethink playing with him bc he has your key to life and he is a forgiving God but if you keep playing with him Emann he will give you a thorn that you will never forget….STDs, unwanted baby, heartbreak, etc, keep playing!
Thank you Sharon.
Thank you Sharon. I’ll go read that verse for myself…
no prob hun, I hope u gain something from them :)!
Sharon, with all due respect, your argument is weak and very typical of these religious heads. Other than telling you that I find your argument unfounded, I am not going to say much on your reply. Let me give you a little advice… you can never win a debate by relying on biblical references. Now, listen to you talking… “How will you look in front of God when you are stuck in front of heaven’s door…” Picture yourself making such a statement in a college research paper where you are asked to argue for or against premarital sex. That’s a weak argument to even sustain trial in the court of human opinion.
“Its cute to try to go against God’s convenant but I truly think you should rethink playing with him bc he has your key to life and he is a forgiving God but if you keep playing with him Emann he will give you a thorn that you will never forget….STDs, unwanted baby, heartbreak, etc, keep playing!”
Oh brother!!! Here we go again with fear mongering. As usual, the rule is this… if you are running out of convincing arguments, refer to fear of the unknown, and that will solve the case. STDs, unwanted babies, and all that are for everyone not being cautious in the lifestyles they choose to get hit with. When/if you really have an argument to make, I will be here to add my 2 cents. Take care.
Excuse me sir I wasnt aware that this was a research paper or a college debate, if that was the case, I wldn’t even patake in this mockery! Previously I stated I dont argue when it comes to the bible bc I am fully aware of anti christ ppl in the world that desires a closer relationship w/da devil than an intimate relationship w/Christ. Plz pump ur breaks and dont get ahead of urself bc this is a blog, nothing serious just a silly blog of useless arguments! Really how far do u think u going to get if everyone shares ur same view on sex b4 marriage? If u wanted a worldly point of view then u shld have only ask worldly ppl, dont waste my time and others by asking a christian persons point of view, bc my answers will always be bible base bc im a christian genius! Normally I ignore silly disses like this bc it really didnt merit my response but I had to put ur back in place b4 ur head got to big. U have a choice to believe im what you want to believe in and I will def continue to believe in what I believe in and that is Gods convenant. So with that said Emann have fun screwing around, u r not harming me by doing it, but in the future plz restrain from asking 4 my opinion if u don’t want my christian prospective. Have a bless day my friend, I will continue to pray for you!
Needless to bug myself on this premarital sex is not godly and its a destroyer of destiny. Please don’t walk away or run from it, but flee from it if you love and value your life o…
“Non-sin” reasons premarital sex and extra-marital sex are a problem include: Disease, indiscrinate breeding and inheritance. Sexually transmitted diseases most often are contracted outside of marriage then passed on to the committed partner, often leading to death or a ruined life. . Young women sho have children usually have to raise them alone, often with state support. This seriously limits continuing education, housing and employment opportunities. Indiscriminate breeding leads to poverty and disadvantagement in most cases. Wealth and property are usually passed to children. When a “love child” comess into the family it causes problems with the peaceful distribution of the estate or leadership of a nation where families get and maintain control of the governmrntt.
Terry,
Premarital sex is not really the sole issue that could cause all these problems you outline in your statement. As I said earlier, nothing human is perfect, so I don’t expect premarital sex to be flawless. That’s why I warn the people who are going to engage in such practice to be prudent, careful and responsible just as they would when driving a motor vehicle. In fact, it is not just for premarital sex; in everything you do in life, you have to exercise your sense prudence, carefulness and responsibility.